“The only difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is extraordinary determination.” ~Mary Kay Ash
I was recently perusing the Archives page of my site, reflecting on the evolution of my adventures online. For the first year and two months of my blog’s existence, I was blogging in the wind.
My subscriber list hung at about 50 people, most of whom I’m sure weren’t reading my posts. I had between zero and maybe three comments per post. My post titles were pretty weak and my writing left something to be desired.
Most people give up after about three months of results like this. Why did I keep going?
Because I felt like I had something to say and that I was destined to impact many people’s lives.
I kept learning and practicing and trying different things. I knew it would work. I persisted.
I get a bit miffed when I hear people say that they can’t change course, learn new things, change careers, follow their passions or make much of any change in their life because they think they’re too old or it’s too late.
The only time it’s too late is when you’re dead. If you’re reading this then I’m betting that you’re not there yet so – it’s not too late.
As I mentioned in my last post, it all depends on what you choose to believe is possible for you. Here’s some background on what it took for me to get this site off the ground.
The Techie Stuff – It’s Not That Hard
Before I started my site, I knew nothing about websites. I didn’t even know what a blog was. Although I’m a fairly competent person in the technical world, I thought putting together a site was over my head so I looked for people to do it for me.
After doing some research, I found that hiring someone would go way beyond the tiny budget I had for this. Obviously, I didn’t let this stop me.
I just needed to know the first few steps to start things myself.
I bought a program called Monetize Your Passion that laid out those steps. Then I actually read the whole program – twice. Then I did what about 2% of people who buy programs do – I took action and did what the program laid out.
At first, things were confusing. I made mistakes and learned from them. I didn’t let the mistakes stop me. I was stepping into a brave, new world that I knew nothing about so mistakes were (and still are) inevitable.
In addition to learning the technical side of blogging, I also had to learn how to write.
But I’m Not a Writer – Yet
Unfortunately, ever since I was a kid, I held the belief that I couldn’t write.
When my brother and I were young, we would make hand-made cards for birthday’s, Mother’s and Father’s days and any other special days. We would pull out our big pad of colored construction paper and create cards by cutting out and gluing designs, drawing and coloring.
We tried to be witty by writing a clever poem on the inside. Of course, as kids, we thought that poems had to rhyme. My brother was pretty good at coming up with great poems. He was the writer. We both agreed that my designs were better than his so I was the artist.
We would both laugh so hard we cried when we read my poems because we both thought they were so bad. I was not the writer. Little did I know that this belief would be branded in my subconscious for another forty years.
Before starting my site, I never had a reason to learn to write creatively. Knowing that writing to help others was one of my purposes in life, I now had a very strong reason.
I started where I was and simply began writing. Looking back, my early writing kind of sucked.
But I kept writing and reading and learning and getting better.
At this point, I had a blog and I was writing every week. Why weren’t people flocking to my site? Because I wasn’t telling anyone that I was out there.
Can Anybody Hear Me? – Marketing Yourself
When I started, I imported my 350 contacts from Outlook and emailed them my weekly posts. Many people unsubscribed. When I figured out how to see my “open rate” (how many people actually open those emails), I was appalled. Almost no one was reading my emails.
I had grand visions that those 350 people would read everything I sent them and tell their friends and my list would grow. Silly, silly me.
Once again, I had to overcome a couple more beliefs in order to move forward.
I was an accounting major in college and hated the one marketing class that I had to take. I never thought I would ever use the information. Never say never.
I also held the misguided belief that sales was a slimy process and I would never have to do it. [Side note: I HIGHLY recommend Daniel Pink’s new book, To Sell Is Human. You’ll learn why we’re all in sales, regardless of your job title.]
One of my first steps in marketing myself was to comment on the blogs I had been reading. This helped me to become a part of the communities that others were building.
Then I was invited to participate in a group where we all shared each other’s posts on our social networks. This helped immensely on many different levels.
Many new readers learned about my site and, more importantly, I made new connections – new friends.
We shared our communities as well as our knowledge. If we had questions or technical issues, the group was there for us.
I learned that sales and marketing – done the right way – can be fun. I learned that no one can benefit from your messages without some sales and marketing to get the word out.
I also learned that sales and marketing are art forms that require constant learning and practice – just like everything else we want to improve.
Putting the Pieces Together
I’ve simplified the story of my online journey in an effort to make a point.
If you want something badly enough – even if it’s something you know nothing about and you have no idea where to start – all you have to do is take the first step.
Change is possible anytime, anywhere.
Believe that you can do it. You don’t have to know how. You just have to know that it’s possible for you.
And you have to take action. Take the first step. Fall down. Learn. Take another step. And another.
Each step builds on the last. Make sure you somehow record all the little steps you take. Reflect on them and how far they’ve taken you.
Celebrate your progress.
Acknowledge your awesomeness.
I know you can do it.
Now, go do it!
What step will you take today toward something you used to think was out of your reach?
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You must know that so many people will resonate with what you have written. I have just started to learn the IT and website set-up and have amazed myself by not being stressed with my ‘failures’. I have enjoyed the learning experience and the likeminded community into which it has introduced me. Taking action empowers and rewards.
Thanks
It sounds like you’ve definitely approached this with the right mind-set Joe. Yes, there’s tons to learn but taking action and learning along the way creates rewards that keep us all going and growing.
Hi Paige,
I love what you said: “Change is possible anytime, anywhere. Believe that you can do it. You don’t have to know how. You just have to know that it’s possible for you. And you have to take action. Take the first step. Fall down. Learn. Take another step. And another.”
Any time I find my mind dwelling on an image of myself that is too small, I keep bringing my attention back to my unlimited, expansive self. Then, I am focused again on taking the necessary steps to achieve success.
Thanks fir sharing your blog endeavor Paige! 🙂
Thank you Patricia! Your unlimited, expansive self is certainly capable of anything you can imagine. Just take that first step and watch the process flow forward.
Your story is reflective of my own blogging trials and tribulations Paige; so I’m really glad to know that my situation is not unique. I have, funnily enough, been ‘blogging in the wind’ now for the same 14 months you initially experienced – since February 2012 in my case. I continue, because like you so succinctly put it, I really feel that I have something worthwhile to say; something that can help many others.
Like you say, it is the belief in what you’re doing and persistence to bounce back from setbacks that counts. I am always consoled by Friedrich Nietzsche’s inspiring words, “He who has a why, can endure almost any how”. If the ‘why’ means that much to us, we really can successfully navigate the rocky road of ‘how’.
Funnily enough, another point you make strikes home: – I have an extreme aversion to selling myself, and have an inclination to think of marketing and sales in general as manipulative, coercive practices born out of self-interest. Of course, they needn’t be – we all have to sell ourselves as you so rightly state; and if we have something worthwhile to offer – something that really can make a difference to the lives of others – we have a duty to ourselves and others to spread that message far and wide.
I am trying to come out of my bubble 🙂
Love that Nietzsche quote, Gareth! I think that so many of us bloggers think we’re the only ones struggling while the bigger names make it look so easy. After learning more of their stories, most of them started out just like us. For so many of them, they got “big” due to persistence and constant learning.
Re-reading what I just wrote surprised me as I define “them” and “us” as if we’re any different. We’re all bloggers on a mission in different phases of our journey.
Regarding selling, an idea to consider is to help others promote themselves. I do this a lot via social media and my site. Sometimes I’m an affiliate and many times I’m not. If I think that my readers will benefit from any information, regardless of the creator, I’m happy to spread the word. This might help you get more comfortable with the concept of “helping your readers” vs. “selling.” Put yourself in your reader’s shoes and think about the information they might be looking for. And check out Daniel Pink’s book.
I’m looking forward to reading about your journey for many, many months to come!
Hello Paige,
Thank you for sharing your journey.
As I continue to work through the ‘techy stuff’ and find my ‘writing voice’ posts like this inspire me to keep ‘booming on’.
I agree that it takes perseverance but sometimes I find that a little ‘time out’ to recover from the overwhelm also works well.
You make a very good point Priska. With all the striving and doing and learning, it’s a great idea to take time out to assimilate all that we’re experiencing. Otherwise all that new stuff can create a sense of overwhelm that tends to squash the excitement we had in the first place.
A very important lesson I’ve learned is that there’s no reason to rush toward our dreams. Allowing things to happen in a way that works for us (which is different for everyone) is the best approach. There’s no race to the finish. There isn’t even a finish. It’s all a journey to love and appreciate each day.
When I get frustrated for not meeting a deadline, I remind myself that I set the deadline and no one in the world is even aware of it but me. Nothing will blow up if I don’t meet my own deadline. What’s the joy in having a dream if we’re always beating ourselves up along the way?
Love your dream and love the process of getting there.
Paige,
Thanks for sharing your blogging journey. I think we are always in a growing and learning mode. This is what keeps me excited – excited about what will happen next and what I will learn next.
Alex
Thanks so much for being here Alex! I totally agree with you. If we’re not growing and learning then we’re dying – a direction I choose not to take.
Growing and learning takes us to amazing new places that we never could have imagined. It also leads us to connect with some amazing new people and that’s a part of the journey that I love so much.
You’re awesome Alex!
Thanks for sharing your story, Paige! It’s good to see that perseverance and action can help reduce old ideas about ourselves and help us achieve our dreams.
To me, perseverance and action are the only ways to help us achieve our dreams, Bobbi. So much of it depends on how important we decide our dreams are to us. Consciously or not, we spend our time on what we deem important. When people say that they don’t have time or can’t find the time to do something, it’s simply a statement of their priorities. We all make time for what’s important to us.
As you alluded to, the more action you take that disproves your own beliefs about yourself, the more those beliefs can change. Many years ago I say myself as a “city girl” who couldn’t survive in the outdoors. Then I decided to spend a couple months living in a tent in the deep woods and mountains of Wyoming. I blasted those old perceptions and convinced myself that I could do anything I decided to.
For the most part, we’re only limited by our own limiting beliefs.
Thanks so much Bobbi!
Hey, Paige!
Fully agree that determination plays a huge role in being successful! Most people view failure as “bad” 🙂 But if you think big and take action, it’s for sure that you will fail repeatedly. Eventually you will succeed, but not unless you are willing to take the ride, with both the good and the bad parts.
Cheers,
Cornelius
Funny you should comment on failure, Cornelius. I’m putting the finishing touches on my next post all about “failure” (personally, I don’t think such a thing exists).
When you take action, you assess how that action worked (or didn’t) and use what you learn to take the next step. When you look at your actions this way, failure is impossible. You simply did something that didn’t provide the results you were looking for so you do something different the next time.
Like you said, determination is huge. Keep trying different things and moving, moving moving forward.
Regardless of what you’re trying to accomplish, relate it to a baby learning to walk and speak. Being the parent of a 3 year old, this is apparent in my daily life. Do they ever give up? No! Do they constantly try and not achieve their goal? Every day? But they keep trying until they eventually get there.
People would be much more open to working toward their dreams if schools, families and society as a whole supported experimentation as much for anyone past the age of six as they do for babies.
Great article Paige. I still “suck” at writing, but I keep doing it anyway. As long as people keep reading, I’ll keep writing.
Dan @ ZenPresence.
Dan,
If people enjoy reading what you write then you can’t suck that badly. 🙂 And if you think you suck, then study writers you admire, keep writing like crazy (practicing) and implement the things you learn about your studies in better writing.
To me, the more real and transparent you can be, the better your writing becomes. That was a huge challenge for me in the beginning.
You’re sending important messages, Dan, so keep writing!
“The only time it’s too late is when you’re dead. ” – so long as we remember this, I think we’ll attempt anything. I know I would! 😀
Not taking action is a common problem – most of the time we’re desperate to get a resource and once we have it in our hands, we become complacent – thinking we’ll get to it. Some day. And therein lies our downfall 😀
I think you are a terrific writer, Paige!
Hugs!
Yes, the problem of getting ready to get ready is a common one. Unfortunately, there are so many people who do this until they’re dead. Then it’s truly too late.
Reading, studying and thinking about our dreams is a small first step.
Most people won’t take that first baby step past that because, in their hearts, they don’t think their dreams are possible for them. So reading and studying keeps the thoughts alive but that subconscious belief that they’re not the kind of people who do such things prevents them from ever doing anything about it.
Our beliefs are so strong. That’s the core where all the initial focus needs to be centered. If you don’t think your dreams are possible for you or if you don’t think that you’re the kind of person who could accomplish such things, then you’ll never make it important enough to take true action.
You’ve accomplished so much dear Vidya! So much of it is because of your beliefs of what is possible.
Big Hugs!!